In addition, please do not hesitate to contact us if you want to learn more about the core of our identity and vocation, as future members, cooperators or volunteers, beyond the rudiments of any authentic Catholic Community (e.g. daily Mass, Liturgy of the Hours, Eucharistic Adoration, Rosary, Divine Mercy). Among other 'foundational' aspects such as our "Pledge of St. Andrews and the General Statutes, synthesized in our official "Program of Life" as a Prayer (below) we are planning, under the Church's guidance, the development, practice and sharing of our founder's (link under 'About') proposed pro-unity, cognitive-empathy and Eucharist-centered Catholic Family Spirituality, enriched by a broad spousal relational concept (partially applicable even to non-Christians) that he named "Conjugality", and wrote about it in 1988. To learn more, please read the following numbered paragraphs which constitute a heavy summary and the first-draft translation from Portuguese, thereby forcing some words or expressions under quotes to carry a special meaning or to have minor variations; apologies, therefore, for any eventual reading or orthographic discomfort:
1) Etymologically, ‘Conjugality’ literally means 'shared-yoke' (con+jugality = shared+yoke) and it is
2) Likewise the important distinctions between the institution of Natural Marriage, the Sacrament of Matrimony and the traditional Family community, I hope future generations will clearly distinguish and better understand that both biologically and spiritually authentic maternity and paternity are 'Fruits' with capital 'F', but still only fruit, never the tree. Priceless Fruits indeed (among others mysterious fruits) but not 'The Tree'. Fruits that should mature into rich motherhood and fatherhood, without (even by bitter divorce) being pulled off the tree until fully ripe. Natural (=1Male+1Female) 'Conjugality' is the 'Tree', and a kind of 'supra-instinctive' real Vocation (since unfortunately 'instinct-consciousness' would be an oxymoron). In other words, the excellence of parenthood. And Christian sacramental ‘Conjugality’ (Catholic Matrimony) is the healthiest, the sweetest, the holiest, the most fruitful 'Conjugal Tree' (not to be confused with 'Domestic-Church') for any couple seeking to become permanently blessed in the Holy Spirit.
3) Afterwards, a 'Domestic-Church' should develop from a devout family into a deeper interdependent communion within a diocese, often a local parish. Therefore, a 'Domestic-Church' is like a Divine Orchard's 'Premium-Parcel,' carefully protected and granted exclusively for each Grafter-surgeon's masterpiece, always grafted as a male+female unique and priceless Fruit-Tree, adorned by its own colorful garden, full of flowers, birds and perfumes: that's a blessed family, par excellence, whether a domestic or religious community! Nevertheless, to get there, it is the 'tree', not the family (a garden with just one 'fruit-tree'), which is the only source of human life and all other additional precious life-nurturing fruits, such as warm homey protection, security, safety, plenty, etc.; an anointing kind of Love, proud transmission of the Faith, prayers (simple, meaningful, powerful, joyful), lifetime bonding, inspirational attraction, respect, authority, tenderness, education, communication, true hope, enduring joy, deep peace, etc. Also, a powerful antidote against the hidden curse of a pandemically radical 'maternalism' and 'paternalism,' cowardly parental alienation, hostile parenting, etc., which is not only the degeneration of parenthood but also a form of child abuse.
4) Moreover, I would like to emphasize that Conjugality does not exist and cannot exist in abstraction, only embodied in the two sexes: 'Male-Conjugality' or 'Female-Conjugality'. They are absolutely inseparable. Only after a conscientious 'investment' starts to improve the quality and power of its own male or female God-given condition, then male and female Conjugality can follow a deeply distinct male or female Conjugality path. Together they can grow and rejoice in their paths, looking towards or in relation to complementarity where 1+1 is much more than 2 and the dignity of 1 alone, but with God = 100%; therefore each one freely able to aim for a total gift of self. Holiness, mutual belonging and openness to human life are the goals, aided by nature. One might posit a similarity to the laws in magnetism: electrical 'like-charges' repel each other, while unlike charges attract each other (South+south=repel, north+north=repel,' but north+south=bingo, they bind!). Therefore, Male-Conjugality always relates to a Female-Conjugality and vice-versa; this is also valid for supernatural relationships with living organisms, like the 'Mother Church', a real mystical wife of Jesus Christ.
5) Parallel and/or Unilateral Conjugality: Regarding the potential pastoral non-applicability of Conjugality as a vocation in these tragic times of divorce and single parenthood, I would like to state that: Since human life is a co-creation between God and the parents, a parallel Conjugality is not only possible but necessary, due to any
6) Only someone that does not 'know' God would dare to expect that He would answer in the same powerful way a prayer from a father, in favor of his own child, if he conscientiously refuses to include the mother of that child in his prayers, at the very least (and vice-versa). Indifference, not hate, is the real opposite of Love, which therefore hurts God the most, and deeply offends Him. In the worst-case scenario, instead of implicitly refusing to pray for, it would be better for a parent even to ask God for justice in this life, since then, eventual Divine sentence (wherever sanction), if granted, would carry a term, an implicit limit (upon conversion), unlike the mortal sin of grave indifference ('spiritual abortion') which regularly becomes a practical 'death' sentence. If irreversible for a lifetime, such cruel act of hate will also destroy the fullness of life in the child which in my opinion is impossible for him to reach, without at least some kind of unconscious 'unilateral conjugality', even without physical contacts, from the part of the parent who love the most and care for that child. (As a lesser of two goods, so-to-speak, in the sense that, ideally, every child needs both a mom and a dad, but at least one parent is better than none).
7) Deep inside, 'hardwired' by God, children intuitively don't really care when moms just keep saying that they love them and dads swear to 'adore' each and every child like they often say they do. Children's souls somehow unconsciously perceive if they are rooted in truth or not precisely by the quality of the 'conjugality,' visible or not, between mom and dad (if any! nowadays). Therefore, what radically matters and sustains children's healthy growth and self-confidence, although on semiconscious and unconscious levels, is when they personally and surely know with their whole being, 'that mom really loves my dad, and dad really loves my mom'. This is an extremely critical factor. It is so important that, if nonexistent, at least in its most minimum level (1-'biologic-primacy', 2-respect, 3-non-reciprocal), a child's life (even at teen ages) will only experience (ordinarily* speaking) a more mature life – especially a better Christian life – after a flow of new supernatural healing and power (new graces) comes from the mystery and merits of human Conjugality applied to prayers and relationships, due to God's Natural and Supernatural Laws.
8) *Disclaimer (regarding the 'ordinarily speaking' emphatic qualification, above): I am personally convinced ('nihil obstat', but not a Church's teaching) that, even if abundant, such similar or equivalent foundational graces necessaries for conversion, plus sanctifying 'breakthrough' graces other than originated from conjugal prayers are not ordinary, but an extraordinary supplementary manifestation of the pure mercy of God, due to our immense blindness in this regard. Definitively, Conjugality is not a mere human technique, but a mystery with supernatural fruits, a largely invisible Divine gift that can only be exercised – conscientiously or not – with the Holy Spirit, in the Holy Spirit and through the Holy Spirit. Therefore, it is possible for non-Catholics to partially exercise it, but impossible to be lived in its fullness without full communion with the Church founded by Christ, particularly outside the sacrament of matrimony, for married couples. Consequent to Original Sin, the natural conjugal yoke is different and heavier than Christ's supernatural conjugal yoke. Consequent to Pentecost, Sacramental Conjugality is no longer a couple's shared yoke, but Christ's yoke shared with a kind of 'Third Person', which is a human (or mystical) couple composed of one male and one female, that belong to each other and are ready to die for love of each other. I have a strong conviction that, in life, we have only two basic options: Suffer with Christ, or suffer much more – and alone – without Christ. I also believe that this mysterious post divine-incarnation reality, apparently unfair for those who do not know Jesus Christ, applies even more to couples – any couple, every couple. Unfortunately the word "Couple" is becoming a ridiculous understatement for what I'm trying to meaning by that word, even if capitalized under quotation marks. There are millions of couples in the world under "negative balance", hurting each other and some even using their own children as a weapon. Therefore, I coined the word "ConJuCouple," meaning a "Mysterious Mystical-Marriage Matrimonial Matter" as an optional honor identity for those trying to raise up their marriage from the ocean of mediocre and superficial relationships, not to mention epidemic spousal abuse with all sorts of domestic violence. We are living in times of pseudo-couples, like married singles, many already "divorced", but sleeping in the same bed, living in the same house, not homes, with children that frequently doesn't belong to both.
9) In a recent comment from the author on his public profile at LinkedIn, as a sum up regarding this proposed pedagogical vision and spirituality path for a higher marriage vocation, our founder said that "Throughout the years, it has proven to be a 'mother-lode' of very practical pastoral arguments and insights, powerful enough to enlighten even bitter spiritual directees (by the hundreds) bringing deep healing plus a practical, step-by-step path of conversion from years of indifference and hate, to gradual Conjugality. And for some, passing through essential steps like the 'Parent-child indirect-love' step and the daughter-in-law vs. son-in-law's 'competition' of love step (Conjugality-parents), to excellence in Christian parenthood in a matter of weeks – even for 'single' parents. At higher levels, only possible under reciprocal Conjugality, Conjugality-parents ("main" father and mother), after mutual adoption, are no longer the natural Mom and Dad, but first the father and mother in Law, if equally reciprocated by the spouse, under a divine "competition" of love adventure". He also added that "Many are the benefits for Children, 'hardwired' to flourish better and thrive the most, if and when properly fed by a spiritual food that is virtually impossible to falsify. For example, since children are subconsciously thirsted to know and need to frequently confirm that 'mom really loves my dad' and vice-versa (that's the food I'm talking about), parents that already started to practice the Conjugality Spirituality can also guide their own children (already under 'Indirect Prayer') to reciprocate a kind of 'Reversal Indirect-Prayer.' In doing so, they will strike a spiritual nerve powerful enough to generate a precious and gradual metamorphosis that catechesis alone would not be able to accomplish.The Holy Spirit normally grants different graces and development phases according to the nature and quality of the spiritual resource available on a daily basis. If children freely chose to reciprocate their indirectly received prayers and are properly (according to age) invited to also pray back in the Conjugality-way, they should do so basically praying for their daddies and through their daddies, whenever they want to pray for their mothers with more 'results' so-to-speak, and pray for their moms and through their moms, when they want to strongly support their daddies (Likewise applicable in favor of grandparents). Essentially, daddy's implicit message of a proved conjugal unity ('The Food') adapted to each individual child/age, need to be very simple, such as: 'If you really want to pray for me, please do it first and through your beloved mom, to whom I belong to, because that would be the kind of prayer daddy would love the most, from you, my dearest son/daughter', also because you are a divine gift that your mother gave to me."
10) Concluding he said: "The major reason why God the Holy Spirit created the Sacrament of Matrimony (sacramental marriage) in The Church, is to become a visible sign to the world, of the incredible/indestructible Love Jesus Christ has for His Church. It is critically essential to first rescue the mystery and power of married couple unity (Matt.:19-6: ‘So they are no longer two, but one flesh'): 'The Couple', Mr. & Mrs. 'One', aimed to become – if Christians – a ConjuCouple, more than a couple partnership, it is a new spiritual but real single entity, a kind of third virtual person that emerges from deep unity between husband and wife after sacramental matrimony, in deep communion with Jesus among the spouses (including spiritual marriage), to the point of becoming a feminine mystical person in order to mystically and sacramentally engage the masculine person of Christ in 5 M's perfect Conjugality (a Mysterious Mystical-Marriage Matrimonial Matter). Therefore, a sacred, solid, sacramented sanctuary. A rock without breach, an indestructible fortress. That's the best 'Tree' for each future 'Domestic Church', when mothers then automatically and silently 'say' to their children 'whenever you see me, you see your father', and vice-versa. I'm deeply certain also by experience, that Conjugal Pastoral Programs should precede Family Pastoral Programs, and become the cornerstone of any smart Family Pastoral strategy really committed to results in numbers and quality."
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...on her "throne", little Miryam our Immaculate Princess: God the Father's masterpiece, spotless human diamond, divine gift to St Anne, that she gave, with herself, completely to St. Joachim, which entrusted her to St Joseph, that gave her to Jesus, which entrusted her to St. John, then extending her motherhood to all of us! Evidently she learned the "Total gift of self" from her mom and dad.
Oh Immaculate Princess and precious little Miryam of papa St. Joachim, conceived without sin in the sacred womb of mama St. Anne, in your overflowing fullness of grace, we plead please remember us, as you remembered even your homemade baby-dolls, and the many kisses your mom & dad "had" to give -in addition to yours!- on them, because of your... "intercession": Protect us from tragedies, especially grave sins, therefore defend us against the Evil One, and keep us in peace under your angels we beg you, we trust. And united to your beloved parents, please pray for us little Princess, who have recourse to thee, as adoptive brothers and sisters, that we may live a life of ongoing conversion, always within your son's Church, as holy and joyful as possible; in your name loving and protecting every child, every grand parent, every pregnant woman, every family, until safely united with you in Paradise, forever! Full of hope and confidence we plead, through your sweet, kind and most pure heart of a little Jewish girl forever alive within you, for the sake of your mom and dad unforgettable ocean of tender love, prayers and homey protection, and for the inexhaustible everlasting treasure of holy memories and consolations they infused in the deepest of your being, as an essential portion of your eternal Heaven, that God the Father rich in Mercy, through your intercession, in the blood and merits of your son Jesus Christ our Messiah and Divine Redeemer, will indeed grant humanity a new Pentecost, with all grace and blessings that we need to really understand the power of fraternal unity in the Holy Spirit, and become a New Humanity, meek and humble of heart, loving and courageously faithful to the Will of God, until the last day of our lives, up to the last generation. Ad majorem Dei gloriam, Amen! Traduciones click: ESPANOL, PORTUGUES & ITALIANO